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What Comes First: The Will or the Wait?

What Comes First: The Will or the Wait? 

 Today’s Words of Wisdom:

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”

~Joseph Campbell

 The Foda’s Take: When you want something, you go get it. That’s what we’re taught. Tenacity, perseverance, and hard work can get you anything. Right? Not exactly. Sometimes, no matter how hard we pound at a closed door, it just won’t open. So we’re left with a choice. Either continue to set ourselves up for success so that when the door does finally open we’re ready to waltz on through…. or keeping pounding our head against the wall. As a stubborn person with a lot of will… I may have done my fair share of pounding, all Chewbacca-like on the malfunctioning Millenium Falcon. Which, as I say it out loud, sounds… well, illogical.

In my life, I can recall so many times when I didn’t get what I wanted, only to find out later that if I had, I would have never gotten something so much better. I just didn’t have to wait so long then to realize things had happened for a reason. Or perhaps what I wanted then just wasn’t as crucial to my happiness as getting my health and a normal life back.

Waiting is really hard. It requires faith, patience, and acceptance that what you want so dearly just isn’t going to happen when you want it to. Whether you believe in God, fate, or destiny, there comes a point when you either have to accept that you’re in for a long wait… or, of course, just keep banging your head against the wall.

Which, you know, is your prerogative. But it will hurt. And it’s not exaaaaactly productive.

So instead, I think it’s all about improving your current quality of life as best you can. For me, that included giving into the need for a wheelchair and swallowing my pride. For Mandalf, it was learning to ride a motorcycle. For Dobiwan, it’s yoga. And eventually, it becomes a question of what can I control right now… and what do I need to release the reigns on?

Nobody likes waiting rooms. They’re dull, have bad magazines, and often feel like a waste of time. But sometimes in life we just have to wait. It’s not fun, it may not even be fair… but in the end, I think the best we can hope for is that once the waiting is over, it will have all been worth it.

<Cue Jeopardy Theme song>

Do do do do, do do dooo…….

The Foda